Humor ?

One rainy day while I was playing here on the web, I bumped into an article on psychcentral.com about humor and the way it differs between men and women.

Men and women can be equally humorous. But as the class clown knows humor attracts people and gets them attention.

Men use humor to get the attention they desire and women seem to shy away from wanting to attract attention through humor, leaving their beauty and minds to do the attracting.

Could it be that they want to be taken seriously...

Men who are funny seem to attract women. Women who are funny seem to scare men.

Humor roles seem to change when people get married. Women become the funny ones and men get less funny.

Is that because the man now wants to be taken seriously and feels he can no longer joke...

Is it because women are now seeking attention and become funny trying to be noticed...

Happiness

There was a person who started and built a very successful business. The business had many good employees and earned a very good income.

That person would leave home early everyday to attend to that business. During the evenings they would entertain potential customers to promote that business.

All the while a nanny would take care of the children. The children never wanted for anything. There was the best of food and the nicest of clothing. Yet every time the children would ask to play, this person was to busy with work and the responsibilities of that business.

One day this person decided to retire. After being home for a few days they became lonely. The children had grown and were off on their own. When they called the children, the children were to busy with lives of their own.

There was another person who struggled with low paying jobs. Many times their children were told no when asking for things simply because there was not enough money. The children wore handed down clothes. Food came from an old stove that needed relit every time it was used.

Yet this person had time to spend with their children. They would go for walks, play ball in the yard. Would be tucked in nearly every night. But this person was sad they couldn't give their children all the trinkets and finer things of life.

When this person retired their children visited them. The children would invite them to go along shopping. Would even stop and buy take out food and bring it when they visited. When they couldn't visit the children would call and chat.

Though this person had a hard life and struggled, they were content.

Where you put priorities in your life does matter. You may not see it today, but you will in your future.

So many wonder today why the young have little to no respect. Yet when they were children did the ones that mattered show any respect and caring for them... Some wonder why their children leave them abandoned in nursing homes, but where did they leave their children but with someone else to watch over them...

Life is hard. Many times though fighting for a bigger income and success can come back to be even harder. Happiness is really only fleeting. Happiness only comes in short moments. Living a life of bliss is something only of fairy tails.

Many people have found that happiness was having work to do. Spending time with their children and sharing smiles. Teaching them the values and lessons they would need to live their lives and have families of their own to smile with.

The struggles faded away as most memories do. They were replace by the joys of children and grandchildren sharing smiles with them.

So what's more important to you, that career or you family? The desire for fame and fortune or the love of your family?

Give you children that hug they need and spend time with them instead of trying to buy the love from them. Make the children important and someday they will make you feel important.

What greater success can one have than a loving family... How much more happiness can you have than the happiness your family gives to you...

What's That

Ohhh, Ahhh, Ohhh, Eeee, Ooo, Nooo, Yes, Yes, Ohh God. Ahh, yes. That feels soooo gooood.

Sounds from my bedroom...

No... I'm alone and believe me I'm “not” having a good time!

After finally settling in a few nights ago it dawned on me. The sounds I make when my aching spine first begins to settle onto the mattress could be misinterpreted for someone having pleasure and not in the throws of pain.

Gee am I glad I don't have close neighbors...

Now the sounds, or should I say words I use in the morning when I first attempt to stand... Well I do try and keep things here that I wouldn't mind children reading. So those I will keep to myself.

Yes, the dance with the dog is still having a very bad effect.

I am so tired because of the lack of a proper nights sleep and rest that my mind refuses to work for anything but the basic hum drum of living.

The sense of humor is suffering. The pangs of hunger are gone. Food, no matter what it is or how good it may look, is just food. There are things that have made me laugh, but that laughter brings on pain.

It has gotten better, yet not better enough, quick enough. As I recall though grandpap healed slower too at this age. Drugs, other than over the counter, are just not an option with me so I just take it as easy as possible and know I will eventually heal. Again...

Over the past few weeks the blog has been more a struggle than a pleasure. I can't find much humor. I can't even complain in my normal way. Keeping up with daily chores is a burden. But they still need to be done.

Before the snow came the other day, we had a few nice days. I had the urge to go for a ride on the four wheeler. But knowing the results of bumping around I decided that would not be such a good thing to do.

Just walking out to feed and water is more than can be easily dealt with. So taking a walk to enjoy the fall scenery and weather is out.

So I rest on my rump, cruise around on the web, and just try to find things to keep my mind occupied.

I did have my son help to pick the last of this years tomatoes and peppers from the garden. Made enough sauce for three meals. Have some peppers to stuff which I'm planning on doing tomorrow.

What do you do when your laid up? How do you keep from getting bored?

By my estimate I have about a week of this to get through yet. I believe I have enough to keep me busy enough still to not lose my mind. But my curiosity makes me ask.

Unexpected

Saturday morning what did I wake to find

The ground was being covered by snow. Already there was snow covering and clinging to the power lines and tree limbs.

This is towards the south from my sun porch, which was not sunny all weekend. Well until very late Sunday afternoon.

Just a little closer from the same window.

This one from my living room door facing east. The ground and the road both disappeared later in the day.

Now I'm used to having snow during the winter season. But when we get four to five inches for halloween I do become frightened. Is this mother natures way of saying boo? Or is it her trick because I don't have a treat for her?

We normally do have a little snow or rain for halloween. Honestly I can't remember a halloween here where we did have nice weather.

But a snow storm in October that has brought down power lines...

After the strangely wet summer we had I'm a bit worried. I don't mind some snow. Really I do enjoy seeing fields covered in pristine snow. I like after hard winds when the fields are covered with drifted snow that lays in waves that look like an ocean frozen in time.

But after the strange weather patterns we've had this year so far, are we in for a winter that will give us snow to deep to keep plowed? Will I again see the road impassible for over a week at a time?

This could be one interesting winter...

Think maybe I'll finish stocking up the cupboards with plenty of extras and maybe even increase the amount of fire wood just in case the power goes out for more than just a few days. Might be a good idea to put new oil in the oil lamps and have some of that oil on hand also.

Living out in the country teaches you to depend on no one but yourself. You don't have the luxury of blaming others when others aren't around to blame...

Good, Bad and Indifferent

Maybe I'm a goofy old soul, but I tend to believe there is good in all people. I think if you really look deep into people that are evil you will find some good. I believe each and every day has good. Our assignment is to find it.

Many people for some reason, hide there good. Maybe they are afraid of rejection. A fear of being laughed at. Fear of being ignored. Possibly a dismal lack of self confidence. I hear many who say they are lonely, yet they don't reach out and even seem to reject people who try and reach them.

What good is your good if you don't share that good...

Sharing good makes other people feel good. Sharing the good helps open other peoples eyes to good they may not be aware of.

Fear of rejection and fear of being ignored. Well they are something I feel every day as I write another post. Many posts seem to go ignored when I look at the comment count. Am I being ignored or rejected?

Could be, yet I see high numbers of readers when I look at the stats. So silly me is believing that I reach many, but that many just have a fear of leaving comments. Comments though are always welcome and very appreciated.

Fear of being laughed at is always there. There are times I know I'm sounding funny and hope I am being laughed at. There are other times I'm trying to be serious and pass on what I feel is helpful. If I'm laughed at for that then so be it. I made an attempt to pass on something I felt might be helpful to someone.

Self confidence is not a major issue for me. I'm in no way as self confident as anyone might imagine. It's more that I just don't know enough to or when to shut up. I'm sure my kids would openly tell you that. Often times I may anger people with my words. Well, that is their problem. If they don't like what I have to say they are welcome to leave. They also don't need to ask my opinion. I do not give answers or opinions to be liked. Only what I honestly believe or think.

The first step out of loneliness is a step outside your comfort zone. Reaching out may get troublesome if some fool uses your words against you. But in the immortal words, those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter. No one should be hushed that has anything to say to add to any discussion. That is after all how we learn and gain understanding of opposing views.

Somewhere in this big world there is someone who is a lot like you. If you do not step out of your comfort zone, you will never find them. It could even be your neighbor, but if you don't open your door and say hi, you'll never get to know them.

There is good in this world and there are good people. The only way to find good is be open and look for the good when you are having problems with day to day life. The only way to find good people is to go out and kiss all the toads you find until a prince comes along. Or in the very least communicate with as many as you find while searching out the good ones.

Without leaving your comfort zone you can never find good, only what is already there. How long can what you have keep you smiling?

Quality Or Quantity

Is there really such a thing as quality over quantity in a relationship...

Often I hear people say it's quality. Yet when two are apart they lack that daily communication that keeps people growing together instead of apart.

Then too there are people who are always together that don't really communicate.

They don't share the daily ups and downs. They think their life is so boring that no one would want to hear it. They forget that maybe one little funny thing brightened their day and it just might be what someone else needs to smile.

They may even think their partners life is dull and boring. So they don't want to listen to it. That in turn makes their partner feel useless and unappreciated.

When getting married or even in just having a partner, the two become one. If one breaks an arm both suffer. If one can't do their work the other must help for the work to get done.

If one feels useless, half of the other is useless.

If one feels unwanted, half of the other is unwanted.

If one feels lonely, half of the other is lonely.

When you spend days or weeks at work, then spend your time off with the guys, she feels lonely and unwanted. Abandoned.

How would you feel should you go home and she decided to spend time away with the girls? Leaving you alone with the kids and household chores. Leaving you alone with no one but children to talk to.

In the least you should be offering her a few days away from her workplace.

Yes you saw her sitting and watching TV. She was on a break. Just because you take a coffee break, would you like you boss thinking that is all you do everyday, all day long?

No she is on the clock twenty four hours a day. Her day has no beginning hour or no ending hour.

Give a little though to her and her life. Share some of your valuable time with her. When your tired self is old and gray do you really think your buddies are going to be there for you? Doubt very much they will, but if you stay in touch with her and always let her know that you want to be part of her, she will be.

Spent the quantity of time you have with her and be darned sure it's very full of quality too. She will appreciate it and you will too. Ignore the one you love and you will be loving yourself. It's really up to you...

Struggling

I'm amused right now that some cities here in my State are struggling and can't pay their bills while others are doing well.

The cities that are struggling are the ones that have done well and had money from a good tax base. They refused to see down the road into the future and borrowed money for things instead of finding a way to live within their means.

Cities and Counties doing well are the ones who have always struggled. They didn't have untold money to waste spend so they buckled down and lived within their means. Not running out and borrowing money thinking the future would be brighter.

Same thing for families. Those that didn't stretch their faith in money are not doing so bad. It's those who didn't play the “keep up with the Jones's” game who are not struggling so bad. They made do with what they had. They made the attempt to live within their means. Drove that old car until the wheels were about to fall off, not until the new shine wore off.

Families who lived their life on big credit with lots of debt are the ones who seem to be suffering.

Seems to me I remember when a guy named Reagan was in office back in the eighties, he warned us of the impending doom. Did anyone listen? No many politicians since have done nothing but apply bandages to the wounds but never woke up and treated the wounds.

Now we have politicians tossing out stupid ideas saying they will save us. But do any say they will live within their means? Instead they want to change the tax codes. Will that make anything better? I seriously doubt it. Kinda sounds like good old fashioned snake oil medicine to me.

Living within your means, tightening the belt, doing without anything but the necessities. That is what we need.

I can't help but wonder just how long will it be until we as a country do wake up...

Yes, my neighbors struggle. Yes, there are other countries that are struggling. But how can I help others when I myself am in the midst of struggle?

Can not the politicians see that?

Tax reform??? How about some Government reform...