Sometimes motivation comes from just knowing that tasks need done and no one else will do them. Or in the least it would be a struggle to get someone else to do them.
Sometimes motivation comes from need and just having to do it yourself.
Isn't it odd how so many people will ask for your help, yet when you need help there is no one available. Everyone you know suddenly has something else to do. And then when you are too busy to help them, they get angry with you.
Seems they can't recall how you asked for their help and they were busy...
Then you also have the people who always ask for things like cash and you give. Then they never once, even for a second consider making at least an attempt to pay you back.
You watch as they go on about their life having a good time, out running and spending every week. Then all of a sudden they are strapped for cash once again and they don't hesitate coming to you and asking for more.
Could it be that turning them away without the help they ask for may teach them to become motivated to save for their hard times?
If you are always there for them when they need help, but they are never there for you when you need, do you even need them in your life?
By telling them no you may be losing them from your life. But one day they just may return to your life as a better person. If not you may find yourself better off without them.
You'll have less aggravation caused by them. You'll have more time to search out new and better friends. You'll have you own tools and equipment where you need them when you need them. So you will be able to do the things you want or need to do! You will have more cash in your own pocket...
Constant takers never make good friends. Constant takers lose friends.
Constant takers who are family need to learn through tough love and the word no that they need to change their ways.
After all who will be there to help them once you no longer continue to exist...
Give a kid a dollar and they blow a dollar. Teach them how to earn their own dollars and they will have the ability forever.
If there is always that someone who is taking your smile away, you may need to teach them how to do for theirself. Even if it means telling them no and putting a frown on their face. It's the only way they will learn to find their smile and keep it.
And your smile will stand a better chance of remaining on your face.