We judge others by actions, we judge ourselves by intentions.
When we judge the things we think or the things we do, our intentions are what lead us to our judgment. If in any way we see our intentions as good, no matter what it is we do, we believe it is good.
Should someone else voice a view opposing our own we are ready for an argument or a fight.
Wouldn't it be better to hear why the others believe what they do about us? Wouldn't it be better for us if we listened and learned how others see our actions and then decide if we are making the right choices and not offending others?
When we judge others it's because of the actions we see that we form our judgment. No mater their intentions we can only see what we want to see and we decide for ourselves if they are right or wrong.
Wouldn't it be better to try and learn the intentions of others and try to see things from their perspective? Try to understand before making a final judgment?
Wouldn't it be better to at least listen to the intentions of others to try and understand their intentions before condemning them?
There are very seldom any two people who see something exactly the same. When there is a car accident observed by several people the descriptions are all a little different. It's up to the investigator to take all the witnesses have to say and formulate a final judgment based on that knowledge and any physical evidence.
Shouldn't we then give someone we may disagree with the benefit of hearing their intentions before passing judgment that they are wrong?
Maybe then when we say they are wrong, we would have a helpful message to help them towards their goal.