Alone Or Lonely

Being alone and being lonely are two different things.

Not feeling lonely means that you have balance in your life. Being alone and having friends is not lonely. You still have a sense of belonging. You feel that someone cares and you feel wanted or loved. That makes being alone tolerable. You still feel connected even when you are alone.

What is being lonely? Feeling left out. Feeling disconnected form others . Feeling sad because your alone. Feeling uncomfortable being by yourself. The feeling that there is no one in your life who really cares about you. Feeling like you don't have anyone who wants to be with you. Being without friends. Being without a companion. Feeling abandoned. Being unable to connect with someone emotionally or physically. Being in a crowd of people at a party or anywhere else and still having these feelings. Even talking with one person but not feeling connected.

Feeling lonely really hurts but it is normal. When a person has no sense of belonging anywhere in the world and feels trapped inside their own cocoon of life it hurts. It makes the mind hurt which then affects the entire body and it begins to hurt.

There are probably some serious chemical imbalances of the brain and body that can cause someone to feel lonely. So some should see a doctor and have a good checkup. Tell the doctor about the feelings and have him check.

But all to often I meet lonely people who were like me. People who have something hidden deep inside their minds that needs dealt with. For me it was just some really deep thought and dealing with each and every thought and memory that came up. That took a long time and was a very lonely period. I couldn't allow others into my life to distract my thoughts while I dealt with everything that I had locked away in my mind for many years before.

Many people would need professional help doing that. And they should find that! Feeling lonely is not a life sentence. You can get past it with lots of hard thinking and dealing. A pro can help guide you in that and a whole lot faster than you will by yourself.

But being alone and saying your lonely. Common... Next time your walking through a store or even down your own street, try talking to people you meet. Quit getting mad because everyone is in your way and approach them with kind words instead. You may be surprised at all the wonderful people you meet. Not all will be nice, but that's life. Many more will be.

After you run into them a time or two you may even find a common bond. That's the beginning of friendship. Same as at work when you talk to coworkers.

I wasted many years myself looking for friends in bars. Out of thousands of people I found one that was a true friend and not just someone to buy beer for. Most forgot who I was the minute I left the bar. Barroom romance is just that also. Minds clouded by booze and bodies desiring touch and sharing with eyes fogged and not able to see clear. Yup, the kind of relationship that should be tossed with the empty bottles. They do happen to work out good, but that's maybe one in a million.

Even a library would be better than a bar. Kids sporting events can be a great place to meet people for those raising children. Maybe even grand parents who go to watch their grand kids play.

So if you alone but not really lonely then put that big smile on your face and go meet some people. They're out there just the same as you and me!

Distraction

The weather has been a bit better here lately. It's still way to wet, but at least the rain has been holding off until night. That doesn't make it much better for getting field work done, but it is allowing for getting much needed chores and some other work done.

The past three days we have been building a new chicken coop. We needed a smaller one because there are only two of us here now. But once again I went for overkill. We now have what I am calling the Taj Ma Coop. Doubt though that the chickens will care at all...

There are still so many chores to get caught up on. The long winter has left broken tree branches laying everywhere. They must be cleaned up from the field before we make hay. Now that hay is becoming another problem.

With all the rains we've had the hay is growing really fast. I'm seeing seed heads already and not just tiny seed heads. So not only is there fields that still need prepared and planted, but when it dries up we have to start making hay right away.

My son went to do some trimming along the road and other places around some fields. He no sooner got started and an older hydraulic hose broke and the tractor developed some mechanical problems at the same time. So we had to drop everything and get to work fixing that.

Of course that led to a unexpected trip for parts. That trip led to running into people we haven't seen for a while so we ended up chatting with them to catch up and be sociable. Then of course we were hungry so had to stop and eat.

Once home a neighbor stopped to chat while we were trying to get some work done. Then another neighbor stopped with a car they were considering buying and asked us to check it out for them. So we lost even more time making sure they weren't buying a piece of junk.

As we were getting some work done finally, my daughter stopped to let me know my grand daughter had her preschool graduation ceremony. We needed to pick up some fencing materials so we ran for them and then came home, quickly cleaned up and changed clothes and ran to the school for the ceremonies. Once again badly needed work got pushed aside for life.

Ahh yes, the weather is finally breaking for the better and life is becoming one silly distraction after another. But I'm having the best time of my life. There is nothing like being so busy that even stopping to eat is a distraction!

Now I have some plans for today. I'm just wondering what kind of distractions will pop up today. Hmm, maybe some pretty lady will get lost and wonder up my road and offer to fix me a great meal... Yah, that'll happen.

Well I have to get busy working and smiling, so have a great day and keep up that wonderful smile despite any distractions that come your way!!!

Human Being

What is a human being?

A human is being smart, a human is being dumb

Being a human is learning, being a human is forgetting

A human is being fat, a human is being slim

Being a human is fun, being a human is sad

A human being is rich, a human being is poor

Being a human is beauty, being a human is ugly

A human being is interesting, a human being is boring

Being a human is laughing, being a human is crying

But what is a human being?

A being that can learn to love, accept and cherish all that!

A being that can care for someone else in a bad situation!

A being that can make a difference!

A being that can smile in the face of adversity and can make others smile!

Where Did My Sweet Baby Go

They were tiny little babies and needed you. They grew bigger into toddlers and still needed you. They threw their little tantrums when they wanted something you were not willing to give, but those tantrums weren't so bad. Some were even cute.

When they hurt you felt so bad. They couldn't tell you where it hurt, they didn't know... They couldn't tell you how it hurt, they didn't know the words to describe it. So the game was played by you pointing here and there while asking does it hurt here, how about there, how about here... Until you finally found the spot that hurt.

Then came the worrying what it could be. You'd imagine the worst, my poor little baby will not survive! But a miracle would occur while you were worrying and the miraculous healing would lead to laughter and playing! Sometimes though, that healing didn't come quick enough and you would rush them to the doctors and demand they see your child now!

Then after a thorough examination the doctor would announce it was nothing to be concerned about and give you an expensive prescription and a hefty bill.

Seriously, I think that was their way of trying to keep you from coming back...

Little tantrums in stores when they wanted all the prettiest toys. They could be overcome with something else quite easily. Sometimes they couldn't and you'd be embarrassed, but not to embarrassed to return... Many was the time I myself considered putting a for sale sign on my children when little and leaving them on a shelf at the store... But love overcame and I'd keep them.

Toddlers get that pouty little face and even sometimes tears, maybe mixed with a bit of sobbing, but it never lasts long and they're playing again. Giving hugs and kisses and loving you for being you and it's so easy to love them in return.

Then they grow into teens...

They've been educated with words you wouldn't use yourself. They no longer feel it's a cool thing to give mom and dad kisses and hugs. They feel they have a right to demand everything they want and more! They don't even have a comprehension of the cost...

Whining and sobbing has grown to a hateful yelling, filled with a foray of words that would make anyone turn their head in disgust. The pouty look has turned into a look that could kill. The door slams that shake the house. The deafness when we speak to them or ask them to do something. Grudges and spite now live where once there was a child we could love and wanted to.

You begin to wonder what you were even thinking when you wanted children. You question you sanity! Is there any sanity left! Do I still have a brain! Is it still working! Where did I go wrong? How could I have failed as a parent and taught this child to be like this? Maybe I should run away and hide! Let them have everything if only they'll leave me alone...

What's wrong with this generation of children, we never... Uh... Yah we did.

It may have been a little different, but we did. We may have had parents that would have attempted to knock our heads off if some of those words escaped our mouths. Our attitudes may have even been a bit different, but we did.

Every generation that has ever lived has gone through the anti establishment days. They all have rebelled against their parents and authority.

It's the way of learning who you are, who you want to be and where you fit in. Testing the bounds and pushing the limits is something we all have done in some way or another.

The funny thing about it all is, there are those of us who think about it later in life and actually apologize to our parents for putting them through whatever we did. We wonder how they survived us... That usually happens when we become parents of teens. It's not until then that we realize what a pain in the butt we were...

Even as adults we rebel. We just learn how to do it and not let anyone know.

Those stolen moments at work, the speeds we drive, the not hearing when our spouse asks us to do something, even the words that we have going through our heads that we don't say when our teens do...

So today as you rebel against teens, remember to laugh and smile, while knowing that you and the world will somehow survive the teen years yours are going through now.

It may seem it will last forever, but it will end all to soon...

The End

So did May 21^st come and go or did the world end like so many feared and no one told me? Darned, and I went out and spent my cash and ran up my credit cards having a good time and one last Caffe' Mocha at Starbucks before the end was supposed to come... Now I need even more cash to pay off my debts!

Look folks, the world's end has been predicted for centuries by people and it's never happened. According to the Bible, we will never know when the end will come. That is only for God to know. Further more, after the great flood, God said he would never again destroy the earth.

I've heard so many so called Christians worrying over the predicted end, that I just can't believe they are really Christians! Have they never read their Bible for themselves? Nope, just like when I used to go to church like a good little boy instructed to do so by family, people go and half listen to a preacher and take half of that half for their own beliefs. So when someone comes along and predicts the end, they fall for it hook, line and sinker.

I've read the bible for myself and am a believer. Not a believer of religion, but a believer of God, the universe, and life. The bible taught me that being a blind believer in what someone else tells you, makes you not much more than a fool. Read the bible and question the preachers when you think they teach wrong. It's there for you to read and understand for yourself... The only end I read about was the possible end of your own life, and again you'll never know when that will be for sure...

Then I read in the news that the stockholders of Mc Donald's refused to fire Ronald as their trademark and ambassador. Gee, I just don't get it. How is it Ronald's or Mc Donald's fault if people and kids are getting fat? No one is forced to eat at Mc Donald's. No one has to quiet their kids by stopping at Mc Donald's.

No all they have to do is adopt the “just say no” attitude. When the kids kick, scream and whine, make them do without a Mc Donald's treat even longer! They need to be taught and you need to get tough! Mc Donald's is not at fault and neither is Ronald. It's the parents with no back bone that are at fault.

So to all the whining people, please, start accepting the fact that it's not someone else's fault and accept that you are responsible for you and the way you give in to your kids. You are also to blame that the children are growing up with the “world owes me” attitude. It's you giving in and not making them earn what they want, that is causing this attitude.

You must get tough! It's the children that suffer when they get out into the world, for your weakness to be a parent that says no and backs it up! Do ya think a boss will give in to the whining??? Sorry, life don't work that way...

Now if I could just predict the end to Mc Donald's charging me to eat one of those double barrel heart attacks, aka double quarter pounder with cheese, I like so much! That would be something worth my while! Then if they could serve it with a Starbucks caffe' mocha! I'd be in heaven in more ways than one...

So until the end does come lets all just enjoy our lives, help everyone we can and smile like there is no tomorrow!!!

Yea Spring

During the recent dry week we had we were able to get some work done, just not enough before the rains started again. But was also able to get some of the flower beds planted. Those seeds are starting to come up!

The Lilac's are blooming beautifully, but so are the Dandelions. And the grass is growing way to fast! The cherry trees are done blooming and there are tons of baby cherries beginning their growth. My mouth is watering already and it will be a while before the birds and I are in a race to see who gets the most. I always lose at that race...

Even the Grapes are coming along.

It'll be a while until these baby Grapes are ready to give us a treat

and jelly. But they're so cute when starting and so fun to watch grow.

Everything is getting green and the wild plants are showing their springtime colors. Yes, life is returning to pretty!!! As soon as it dries up enough it's time to plant the tomatoes and peppers. We did get the garden tilled, but the rain started again and we didn't get it planted yet. I'm about a month late this year at that, because of the wet spring.

But lookie here! We have visitors to the yard.

If ya look carefully to the right you can see his girlfriend.

But they aren't very sociable...

Nope, here they are leaving after we watched to long.

They do have a family of little ones here. But I didn't see them today. We found their nest a few weeks ago and have been watching. The eggs hatched and we do see the little ones sometimes, but they stay hidden for the most part. Soon though they will be strutting with mom and dad. And we'll get to say hello and watch them too. Well at least until they decide we've watch enough and they leave. As long as we leave them alone though they will spend most of the summer with our yard as home. They do most every year. Guess as long as we watch from a distance and they feel safe, they stay.

Well, I'm outta here for the weekend and I certainly hope you spend your weekend smiling and watching the wonderful world we live in. The people may be a bit strange and hard to take, but the real things of nature are never to hard to smile about and take!!!

News ?

Gee, Arnold cheated on Maria... Imagine that. Like I needed the news media dumping that on me every five minutes or more during the morning news yesterday...

He's hollywood, do any of them stay faithful...

Heck for that matter look at the family she came from. Do any of them stay faithful... Surely that couldn't have shocked her!

Ya know, that is their personal business. What the heck does that have to do with news?

Arnie, I don't care how big, tough or anything else ya are, your an a**! Any man who would jeopardize his marriage and family just to get a little on the side, is a fool. But for that matter so is any woman who would...

It's sad though, because I had hoped that you didn't fit the mold of all the others in hollywood. But you proved me wrong... But I still like you as an actor. Your movies always were fun and interesting, hope they will be again.

As for Maria... Wonder if she'll be the same as Hillary and forgive the bum and stay with him...

That's about all I can say about them. But the news media will drum on about it for weeks. Or longer... Is that the news we need?

I don't think so, how about the news that Al-Qaida has a new leader. Yes, just because the other jerk was killed, it isn't over... So where is the celebrating now? Sorry folks, it's not over, just changing hands.

Wonder if any other country will take the lead in hunting down this loon... Doubt it, nope the US will be the lone world Sharif in hunting down another bad guy... Seems to me the rest of the world don't care if they run loose so unless he attacks us here then why should we... Isn't it kind of like helping neighbors that won't attempt to help themselves...

How about that the wise leaders in Washington DC decided that the big multi billion dollar oil companies still need and deserve their big tax breaks which come on the backs of the little tax payers... Maybe us little tax payers should form a group and start paying the politicians for what we want... But isn't that what our votes are for... I keep all the little stuff in the back of my mind until it's time to vote and use them to help me decide.

These big oil companies keep raising the prices they charge us and then cry for big tax breaks when they're making record earnings and getting them. So they rob us at the fuel pumps and again by keeping our taxes high because they won't pay their share...

The people started buying less gas which would cut into their record sky high profits, so the gas prices began coming down a bit. But when they do come down the people will start buying again and like always the prices will go back up but even higher. Happens every time... As a collective, we the consumers are to dumb to refuse to start buying again. Funny though, I lived through a time when we didn't need to buy everything that came out and didn't need to run every day. But today everyone seems to have a need to buy everything and always be on the go... No one wants to do without, even when they only throw most of the junk away after just a short while...

Hmm, maybe it's the same syndrome that is causing so many married people like Arnold to cheat on their wives, or wives to cheat on their husbands. They just can't see they have enough and a good thing already at home...

Oh well, I'll just smile while I keep working with my 1948 tractor that is bought, paid for and is fun to use. I'll keep smiling while I watch others who have to have everything new, then worry how to pay the bills. I'll keep smiling while I make do without all the junk that comes out. And I'll keep smiling as they cry...

Hope you can smile too!!! Have a great smiling day!