Needy People

Needy people drive me nuts. I'm sure we all know at least one, but I'd almost be willing to bet we all know a few or at least know of a few.

We hear needy people and we just wish they would go away. We see them coming and look for a place to hide or start looking for an excuse to leave...

I'm kinda sure I'm not alone in the thoughts of slapping them and telling them to just shut up. They can be quite aggravating with their incessant need.

You can spend a life time trying to give them advice about ways they can help theirselves, but it never helps... You can do almost anything for them, but it never stops... You can teach them how to do things, but they forget...

You can tell them your busy but they get sad...

I seriously think they just have a need to be needy!

Aww, but could that be the answer...

Maybe they really do need to be needy...

Could it be that they are so lonely that their neediness is their way of being around someone?

Do they lack the self confidence to express their friendship in a better way?

They may not even realize that their acting needy pushes people away...

Some needy people I meet though are just lazy. They'll come around and waste my entire day just chatting. If I ask them to help with the work while we chat, they find an excuse to leave and I don't see them again.

They though are just the few lazy people I know that are needy only for company. Their cure is to find something they like doing and do it.

There are many others though that maybe need more. They need to learn how good of a person they really are, that they are good enough and that they are capable enough.

Teaching that can be done on the sly by helping them to help their self. Then when they do accomplish what they are trying to do, point that out and make a big deal of it. Make them feel more self assured. Kinda the same as working with children.

Nothing helps build self assurance like doing a job and seeing that you can.

But extreme patience will be needed to work with them. They may have come from homes where mommy and daddy did everything for them and they never had a chance to do for theirselves. So they never had a chance to build up their own self confidence.

So smile today and offer to help someone, help their self!

A Hard One ??

Many times men and women seem to forget what the reasons were that made them fall in love with the person they are with. But when they think and remember it seems to put all lifes craziness aside, it seems to help get past petty arguments, even seems to help keep some couples from divorce after cheating.

But what about a love that's built on nothing more than shallow looks and lust... It was great for a while then later became a nightmare when the true inner thoughts and feelings of the other are found.

The heat and passion that once made someone irresistible have given way to the cold hard facts that the other is not the person you thought they were. Their hopes and dreams, their morals, their ways of dealing with life just don't fit what you think or feel. Not that the other person has changed, but that you never should have been together in the first place.

Then to make matters more difficult, you now have children. Do you break up and have the children go through the nightmare of separation... What about making them live through the emptiness of a relationship filled with arguing and fighting... Or even the community stigma of being the child of divorced parents...

There is always at least some backlash on the children, even in agreed upon divorces. There is the feeling of abandonment by the parent that they are not with. There are the school bullies who tease that your parent left because they couldn't stand you.

If divorce is the only option then feeling towards one another have got to be set aside for the children. The missing parent has to have time with the children so they know that they belong and are still wanted.

Even step parents can seldom fill the place of the real parent in a childs heart or mind. Those that do are very rare.

So many times the partner of someone with children feels jealousy and don't care about the children. Many times too the step parent becomes an abuser.

So what do you do?

I remember through life, seeing couples that seemed to only be together to raise families. Their homes always seemed cold and unfriendly. Their children, I was friends with, seemed to display that emptiness and coldness.

There seems to be no easy answer and I can't even come up with a good compromise.

Maybe it's one of those questions without an answer, but I don't really believe there is such a question.

Yet I find myself confused by this. Especially when I hear people talking about divorce or leaving their partner, and that happens a lot these days...

The only answer I can seem to come up with is to stop and take the time to really know who it is that you think your wanting to marry or crawl in bed with... I think it's good sound advice, but yet advice that is for some hard to follow or even to late.

So smile and share those smiles today, but if you can find some time and think of anything that might help to find an answer or even give a different direction to the thinking of it, please stop back and leave a comment.

One Important Step

Every one of you is worthy of respect. Everyone and everything is worthy of respect.

Animals that are being raised for food deserve and are worthy of respect. They will eventually become the food that keeps us nourished and alive, so they deserve to be treated with all the kindness and care while we are raising them. The universe has been kind enough to allow us to do what we like doing in raising them, so we owe it to the universe to treat it's animals with the respect that is given to us.

Pets are worthy of our respect. They give us their lives filled with joys, comfort and company they give. Treating them badly would just not be right.

Wild animals give us the joys and pleasure of watching them as they do their jobs of keeping the earth from being overgrown by vegetation and some by keeping the earth from being overcome by other animals. They too can be part of our food chain and should be respected.

I go so far as to say, trees deserve our respect along with all the other plants on the planet. Trees and other plants give us oxygen that we breath, give us food we eat and even give us resources to make the clothes we wear. They also give us great beauty and pleasure to enjoy.

Life simply begins and ends. A life that gives in any way is worthy of respect.

When anything begins to take more than it's fair share it begins to lose respect and just like a weed in a garden it will be plucked and disposed of.

Nature takes care of that in forests with vines that grow and choke trees that have become overgrown and rob the plants of the forest floor of life giving sun. This allows the other plants to grow and prosper.

Weeds that shoot their roots deep for nutrients and bring up what they need and more, that is then stored nearer the surface, are eventually choked out by plants that use those nutrients they need but can't reach on their own.

Animals that live by killing and eating other animals die off when the other animals are scarce and their food is harder to find. Their populations are dependent on the others.

As civilization has grown it's found that people who take advantage of others by stealing in any way were better controlled by putting them in jails. The “don't do that approach” just didn't work.

People who kill and promote killing were put out of the picture by killing them before they killed off all the good people. But today we just lock them up too and keep them like unwanted, dangerous animals in cages we call jails.

But even those people who do wrong are given at least some respect...

So why is it that so many husbands and wives give no respect to their spouses? I have witnessed that from both men and women... I happen to think this world would be a much better place if we would all learn to respect.

More Funny Questions

The blog was messed up from late last evening through most of the day today. Not just this blog but all the blogs on Google. But I guess the problem is fixed. I was missing Thursdays blog so I didn't get upset, I just added it back in. It's down below.

I'm also thinking about some more funny questions I hear when some people stop here for the first few times.

One that makes my head spin is, what kind of cow does chocolate milk come from... Yes, it really does happen!

My quick answer that just pops out because of my smart butted attitude... Jersey Cows, they're the cute brown ones.

Seriously, are there really people who don't know how to make chocolate milk???

OK, for anyone left scratching their head. You go to the store. Buy some milk. Also buy some Hershey's chocolate syrup. Go back home and fill a glass with milk. Add twice the amount of chocolate the can or bottle of chocolate syrup calls for and stir it up real good. The sip to your hearts content and enjoy.

Now Hershey's isn't giving me a darned thing for the mention but it's the only chocolate syrup I like. I like things that are real chocolaty so I double what they say to use. That used to make my mom a bit angry when I was little but I am on my own and will do as I please now.

I also hear why do you need so much land... Another is where do the cows go for the winter... And, what is hay...

For the winter they either stay out or go into the barn. On nice sunny days they want out of the barn and we let them out. They can't fly away like the birds...

Their nice green grass they like to eat doesn't grow during the winter, so they eat hay. A cow has an appetite somewhat like their size, they eat a lot. Hay comes from all those pretty fields of green you see during the summer. Our hay is a mixture of grasses, some clover and some alfalfa and a few fields have birdsfoot trefoil, which is another legume.

Being that cows have such a huge appetite we need lots of hay and even some extra in case of a long winter. So the need for lots of hay causes the need for lots of land. It also brings with it the need for lots of work...

Trees and bushes along the edges of fields would like to take over the fields and need trimmed back or removed constantly. If not the fields shrink.

There are also other crops raised on the fields so they can be rotated so the natural minerals don't become depleted. What is a hay field this year may not next year. Moving those crops around also is a big part of not allowing weeds to take over.

So there are some more of the questions I've heard that I never really think about and find amusing.

Hope you've enjoyed them and for some hope you now know. I've just been around farms all my life and it all seems as natural to me as all those things in a city do do city people. So when I hear these questions I just have to smile...

Have a great weekend and remember to pass on a smile to everyone you meet!

What Happened???

Seems something went wrong at Google. They say that we couldn't update our blogs and believe me I wasted my entire morning trying to. When I finally did get in and was able to access it I found my Thursday post disappeared! So I'm running it again.
There are many upset bloggers over this but it's really out of our control. I'm sure the people at Google did all they could to fix things as quickly as they could.
But hey!!! We're back and I for one am happy about that!


So Thursdays post is below and have a great day!!!

The Mouth

I see guys treating women bad quite a bit and I complain about it a lot. But another thing that bugs me is how to many guys talk with their filthy mouths around their women.

First, off color words or filth, are only a sign of lack of intelligence. They are to dumb to think of anything better to say.

Second, a real man knows how to speak without using dumb words. It's only an insecure little boy of a man who needs to back himself up with foul words.

I worked my life as a construction worker and was also a biker. Believe me, I know words most never heard of. I even made up some of my own. But that was for around other guys in guy situations. Showing respect by not using those words around ladies is just what a real man does!

I won't even use them around women who will use them. It just don't sit right in my mind. Mater of fact. I'm not to sure what kind of relationship I could even have with a woman who spoke continuously with a foul mouth. How would I ever be able to respect her more than just one of the guys...

Then I also hear guys calling their ladies some of those words. Do you really think that is what she is? Do you want others thinking that is what she is? How would you feel if someone called your daughter some of those names or words? Like me you would probably punch him square on the mouth.

So common guys! Lets try cleaning it up and treating those ladies as the wonderful women they are. Lets all start a new trend and make this life just a little better by cleaning ourselves up a bit!

Wouldn't hurt either to say something to our buddies we hear talking to women like that...

The Computer Made Me Do It

That new computer I picked up a week ago is just about ready for me to use. It has been a nonsensical task getting all the preloaded junk out that I don't want, and getting what I do want installed. But I have become a bit particular about what I want on a computer...

I despise all the ET call home junk that programmers have installed in their programming. MS seems to be one of the worst for that, but so many others do the same. Well, I live way out in the countryside and have only dial up. To pay for anything faster would equal parting with enough money each month to pay for about six meals or more...

So all that phone home crud eats up to much of my precious time. I dedicate one day a week updating important apps. and apps. I use. When doing those updates I don't do any browsing or surfing. I give the updates all the space they need to finish in a reasonable amount of time. When the apps. want to search and download on their own, they cut into my time and that's no different than a cell phone bugging me when I'm busy. So programs need taken out and phone home apps. need to be found and shut down.

I like basic programs. Programs that are easy to understand and use and that take up as little of the computers resources as possible.

And why is it that every programmer seems to think their programs should start when my computer does? Sorry, I don't use all my pots, pans and dishes at the same time, nor all the farm equipment I have. So why would I need them all out and started every time I start a day?

That forces me to find all the junk and shut that down too.

Maybe it's because I started with a second hand IBM that ran off of DOS, I picked it up at a second hand store just to see if I could use it and it would be useful to me. It ran so efficiently and so fast that it was fun to learn. Today however computers are not so. Why can't they sell basic computers which can be used and added to in your own way? No, that would be to easy and cost less. The companies that sell the overpriced junk wouldn't stand a chance if their programs were not already added.

I'm sure there are some people who need preloaded apps. Not everyone knows how to find and add easier programs to use or even know what programs are out there that they could use. But many more of us do. So make computers suitable for both!

I also make a trip to Starbucks and have a tasty treat when I do my updates. They have free wireless connections which take less time to update with. So it gives me a chance to enjoy while doing the mundane task of updating. That is another excuse I have for not wanting wireless here at home, and by darned, I'm sticking with it.

I was having a problem though... When I tried to connect wirelessly I couldn't get my browser to connect. I spent some time for several days and had no luck. That did give me more time to enjoy Starbucks each time I tried something different though...

Finally I took the new computer to a guy who works on them for a living and really knows what he's doing. He also runs a hobby shop with very expensive toys. I like that guy! Even bought a few radio controlled helicopters from him to play with. Aww, the big kid in me... But they are fun! Outta see the dogs when I buzz them. Outta see the neighbors when I fly over them!

Back to the point though... When he looked at my problem he had it fixed and working so fast I completely missed what he did. I had to get him to go over it and show me. Damned... It was something so basic that I never gave it a thought... So there I stood all embarrassed and red faced... Even better, he refused to charge me. He even showed me some of the new features and how they worked!

So I needed a clip on belt case for my camera and bought one from him. Think that was the least I could do... Never even asked for a discount or argued the price... Nope, when someone will help and knows what their doing and is willing to show you how, you treat them real good.

Besides, he has an even bigger helicopter I have my eye on and I'll dicker on that price!!! Or maybe that big airplane... Hmm. That could be great for a few laughs. We've even come up with ways to mount spy cams on them for even more laughs and maybe even some great wildlife shots...

Hmm, maybe another trip to Starbucks is in order this evening to see if there are any new security updates... never can be to safe, can ya : )